Be understanding. This is a very hard time for them. I can’t imagine how they feel during this time. I try to remember that when they complain more or text me constantly.
Include them. If you can invite them to some part of your holiday tradition that is great! If not maybe you can send a video.
Try not to interfere with the visits. You are allowed to see your family as well for holidays but try to make sure your foster children can spend time with there’s as well.
Share lots of pictures. I sent Baby Zs parents picture in a “My first …” onesie for every holiday. I sent pictures to both kids parents of our Halloween costumes, our thanksgiving dinner, getting our Christmas tree, taking pictures with Santa, etc.
Send the kids in holiday outfits to visits. Parents love to see kids dressed up and then they are able to take their own family pictures.
Make them special presents. For thanksgiving we made them pumpkins with little turkeys on them and for Christmas we made reindeer pictures that they can hang up in their house for every Christmas.
Have the child make something for other family members as well. It’s not only the parents that are missing them this holiday season.
Ask them about their traditions. And try to include those traditions as much as possible.
Ask them what they plan to get the child. I have had a couple instances where we get the children the same thing. If you do communicate with the parents somehow you might want to ask them ahead of time.
Treat their child special. The best thing you can do for the parent is to give their child a good holiday.